Real Simple Parenting Advice

Here’s a quick list of advice that I put together for my parenting friends and family. A quick refresher can be great for our ever so busy lives. Things change and sometimes we just forget certain things that were so important before. Let’s jump right into these quick tips on how to stay on top of your parenting game, and kill it.


Take care of your health so you can take care of everybody else. While juggling the kids, your husband, your job, and hobbies, you can forget your well being. Stay healthy, rest, and make sure you have alone time once in awhile. Take a limousine out with your girlfriends once in awhile, and let off some steam. You deserve it!

Be sympathetic to your children’s fears without being too emotional. If your child is afraid of something, don’t play into the fear, definitely, don’t force it upon them, and don’t act upon the fear. A better approach is having a good attitude to get them through it, show them it isn’t what it seems, make it fun, and stay optimistic. For example, if your child is afraid of dogs, be optimistic and tell them “Wow, a doggy! Let’s go see if the owner will let you pet his fluffy fur. Would you like to do that?”

Don’t pay your children to make their beds. Don’t pay them for anything they should do normally and naturally. Allowances are awarded for good behavior not for doing chores. This way you don’t ask them to help you carry groceries, and you get asked, “For how much?”


Let your children read what they want, not what you want. I’d rather have a child be enthusiastic about fantasy books than hate reading the screenplay   books I’d rather them read instead. Be happy that they found a genre of books they are interested in and play into that to be supportive.

Keep a bedtime schedule and stick to it. Staying consistent with bedtimes is crucial. A study showed children that didn’t have set bedtimes had more problems and the longer the inconsistencies lasted, the longer the problems existed. Set a bed time and be strict about it.

H.A.L.T. right there mister. A lot of new parents need to learn these acronyms and remember them, for they can be deemed as useful sometime soon. When children misbehave it is usually because they are either, hungry, agitated, lonely, or tired. Don’t get upset with them, it’s your job to pick up the cues and address their needs.


The three steps of homework is a routine all of your children should get used to. As soon as they get home, knock out the hardest work. Then no phones or tablets (unless it is needed for homework). Finally, when all work is completed, have them clean up and load up for the next school day and have things ready and prepped by the door.

7 Steps Closer to Our Children Growing into Leaders

We all want the best for our children, right? We want them to have what we never did, experience what we couldn’t, and enjoy the things that just weren’t available to us. I feel the exact same way when it comes to our little Carleigh. But there are things that we as parents can become immune to or in other words, blind to see. Sometimes when we think we are doing great things, we could be crippling our children from becoming their greatest version of themselves. When we think it’s helping, we are blinded to see we are disabling them from growing. Here are seven things that hopefully will open your eyes and your mind so that you may help your children to grow into amazing individuals they were meant to be.


1. Make Sure You Practice What You Preach. First is one pretty obvious one that us parents tend to overlook a lot. I remember my parents telling me when I was a young girl, “do as I say, not as I do!” It worked…for awhile. I grew up actually mimicking my mother in her awful habits. Biting her fingernails followed me to my twenties and so did her nasty smoking habit. I quit smoking cigarettes and biting my fingernails but I wanted to show a real example of how my parent told me not to, but I did anyway.

2. Check Yourself That You Aren’t Mistaking Intelligence for Maturity. We like to think with some random intelligent acts, certain talents or gifts, and behavior that was an influence, that our children are mature enough for the world. We’d like to believe our children are responsible enough and sometimes its just not the case. Gage this step by observing other children in the same age group and see where they compare. You may be delaying your child’s independence, or providing too much.

3. Be Open And Honest About Past Mistakes. As your child gets older, especially in their teens, you want to be honest and open about your past mistakes. It might sound like a horrible idea, I know, but its a great way for your up and coming adults to hear the harsh reality on some things their parents had to go through. They will ultimately make their own decision but just having the memory of the sincere talk they got from their mother or father could be just enough to steer them away from making some regretful decisions.

4. Do Not Let Guilt Steer The Wheel. It happens all the time. Your child gets into trouble and here comes the consequences. They cry, sob, and beg for forgiveness. The look on their face almost makes you melt and wanna take them out for ice cream to make it all better…STOP right there. Do not let your guilt deter you from setting a good example. Make them take their consequences like responsible children. Be strong!

5. Let’s Not Be Quick to Praise. This is so common in society it is looked upon as normalcy. Facts have shown though when we take the “everyone is a winner,” mentality to our children, not actively picking out the negatives, our children ultimately become stunted in their growth. Because we disregard poor behavior children have had more of a tendency to lie and cheat to deal with situation where they aren’t being treated “special.” All because, the parents haven’t conditioned the children to face such a thing being negative.

6. Should They Trip And Fall, Let Them Dust Themselves Off And Get Up On Their Own. Comparing our young to generations before us, is definitely different. The children now a days can’t do things on their own and a lot of times think they are just entitled. This is from parents being too eager to help and too eager to rescue. When they are young, they fall down, you pick them up, and when they got older they needed help with something, you helped out again. As parents there needs to be a line drawn as to whats being helpful, and whats doing too much. Best thing to do is let the child go through it, figure it out, problem solve, and they will be better the next time it happens. We all know it happens again.

7. Risk Can Be A Good Thing. I have a tendency to shelter my child from certain things. I am trying to keep away the negative and unhealthy things form her knowledge. Little did I know I was starting her off to have either high arrogance or low self esteem. Healthy risk taking in our kids is great! Let them have it. A scratch on the elbow is good for them to go through and experience. Facts show a child that is held in the house and never really gets to play outside, experience the risks, and go through them often grow up with constant phobias. Teenagers naturally will go through the boyfriend and girlfriend stage but this allows them to appreciate long lasting, sincere relationships when they are older. Let them experience life, just with your super vision and know bouts, that it.

FamilyCommunicate with your kids, toddlers and teenager alike. Be honest and open about goals, life, and situations. Be aware of yourself and your actions. Even when you think your children aren’t watching. Think of yourself more as a coach and trainer than just treating them to things and cuddling. Keeping these things in mind will hopefully create more leaders that this world so desperately needs.  


Family Time Suggestions


Life is full of surprises, isn’t it? With work, school, and responsibilities life can become a tad bit overwhelming. Family time could be the last thing you’re thinking of. I know we all have bills to be paid on time, paperwork to be filled out, and deadlines to meet. Family time should not be overlooked! It’s a great way to bond with our loved ones and to wind down. We all know all of us adults need to unwind after a long week. Set something up for the family time whether it be an hour, one night a week, or a few hours every day, just make time.

I have put together a short list of fun activities for your family that we have done as a family or would like to do in the future.

Should you have any suggestions, please leave them in the comments below! It could be anything. Does offering neighbors tree services sound like fun? Hey, anything could be made fun…

Have fun and enjoy!

  • FamilyPlay a board game
  • Bake cookies or a pie
  • Make popcorn, candies, and settle down for a movie
  • Plant new flowers
  • Go to the park
  • Make a vision board
  • Go to mall
  • Play hide and seek
  • Cook an extravagant dinner
  • Play a card game
  • Take a trip to the beach
  • Go out to dinner and ice-cream
  • Paint a picture
  • Play a video game
  • Make a YouTube video
  • Clean the house
  • Go through clothes, toys, and donate them
  • Take a trip to the library
  • Go outside and play a sport
  • Ride bikes
  • Rollerblade
  • Take a walk
  • Make art and crafts
  • Have story telling time
  • Build something
  • Go hiking
  • Make a treasure map, and hunt


Empowering Our Children


To our little ones, making decisions and having many choices can be a little challenging. But may feel pretty awesome to them when they are given the opportunity from their parents to make the decision for themselves. This has helped my parenting a lot with Carleigh. I like to believe that this also helps our little Carleigh with her self-esteem and independence. Uplifting our children is one thing we as parents should often.

Have you heard of the rice experiment? A doctor had an experiment talking to rice. Yes, I said talking to rice. He put rice in a jar, spoke differently to the separate jars, and noted how the rice rotted over a period of time. His findings were incredible. What he did was spoke to each of the jars every day. One jar he spoke love into, one jar he spoke hate into, and one he totally ignored altogether. After thirty days he would then check to see how they differ from one another. To his surprise, the one that spoke lovingly to didn’t rot that much. The rice that was yelled at and talked to hatefully, rotted to a black, disgusting looking, moldy growing, mess. The ignored jar of rice rotted similar to the hateful rice, if not worse. Why did they change in this way? This doctor understands that everything is made up of energy. What does this make you think? This should put it into perspective.

Rice Experiement

Our words are more powerful than you think. So encouraging words to our little ones are very powerful. As Carleigh’s parents, we always practiced using the right words. By the right words, I mean not using negative or discouraging words. We tell Carleigh she can do anything she puts her mind to. As long as she believes in it, she can achieve it. We never tell her that she can’t. I remember when she was learning how to read. We continued to tell her how she knew how to read, how great she was doing, and we believe that she could do it. She was so frustrated for the period of time she was learning how to read. After a little while, she started to read on her own. One day I had to acknowledge it and remind her how she’s accomplished something she thought was so difficult. And she was so happy for herself and she became so uplifted. She wanted to learn more challenging words and she believed she very much could.

We encourage our daughter by also reminding her of her values and ethics. Sometimes our children may lose sight of who they are. When they start to have friends and are exposed to a lot more they may need to be reminded of who they are. We’ve had to do this a few times and I assure you, this is sometimes, all that is needed. We let her know that she is a well-behaved child, a role model for the younger children, helpful  and caring. We sit her down and talk with her often to keep communication open and honest. Be encouraging and honest parents. Our children minds are like sponges and they pick up on everything. They mimic and copy everything they see and hear.

Let’s fill our children with positivity so they may shine and share it with the world.

Routines, Discipline, & Awards, More Important Than You Think?

 Growing children need a variety of different things. Quality time, encouragement, healthy diet and exercise, and the most important of them all, love. There are things you can do to help these traits to be more beneficial to you and your child. Adding a few tweaks could be all the difference you needed in your agenda. How many of you knew that having a routine for your child to follow makes them act just a bit less crazy? This also helps the parent to know when its time, and for what?

RoutineStart the day off right and you’ll always have goodnights. Create a schedule for your children. Make sure they know every move, every hour, and why it’s vital to keep on schedule. Wake up, eat breakfast, go to school, come home, have a snack, homework, play, dinner time, family time, and goodnight. Something as simple as this could change a child’s behavior around. They have a boundary, they have limits, and they have a timetable of what was, what will be, and what to look forward to. Your children deserve to know whats going on so let them know. It helps with their maturity so keep them in the loop.


Awarding and disciplining has turned my child from a misbehaving and disrespectful little girl to a totally different girl. She did a whole three sixty turn around and it has been great since we made this change. All parents will have their own way of rewarding and disciplining our children which are fine. What needs to be put into action is being consistent with it. Consistency is key! Award your child when goals are met or behavior has been kept up. Whether it be a lollipop or a trip to the movies, the main goal here it to show them that good behavior is rewarded. Discipline should be dealt with as a way to prove that bad behavior does not get overlooked. Take something away, timeout, however, you decide, go with that.

When adding these to your mad parenting skills make sure that you communicate. Don’t underestimate your children. They understand more than we all think and we don’t give them enough credit for it. So let them know what’s going on, why you are doing this and how. They will more than likely be more open to the idea than it being spontaneous and out of the blue information. Add these small ideas to your bag of tricks and see how much greater your actors and actresses get!